Tolerating these incorrect behaviors of a spouse is a mistake
Living in a relationship where you constantly blame yourself for feeling wrong and feel embarrassed day by day gradually reduces your self-esteem. If this feeling comes from your spouse, it can be truly tormenting; however, you cannot confront these toxic behaviors until you recognize them. In this part of Family PlusNamakStay with us as we share signs that show your spouse’s behavior is wrong and makes you feel embarrassed.
Considers your weaknesses as flaws
It is often assumed that if someone is sensitive and vulnerable, they are labeled as “too sensitive.” However, if your partner constantly treats you like you’re weak, you’ll feel embarrassed and unable to speak your mind freely.
Constantly compares you to others
Your spouse undermines your personality by making statements like “You’re just like your mother or father!” or “So-and-so wasn’t like this at all,” using others as the standard for comparison. This behavior can make you feel ashamed of yourself. Your partner should understand that no one is like you, and you should not be compared to others.
Compares you to who you used to be
All humans change and grow over time. It’s almost impossible to be the same person you were one or two years ago. Hearing phrases like “Why don’t you do such-and-such like you used to?” or “You’re not as good as before” puts pressure on you. This can lead toDecreased self-esteemand feelings of shame.
Doesn’t understand your problems
One of the worst things when upset is hearing phrases like “Don’t make a big deal out of it” or “Don’t you think you’re overreacting?” which indicate that your spouse does not understand or care about your issues. When you seek help or share your problems but do not receive support from the other party, you will feel both disappointed and ashamed.
Doesn’t praise or encourage you
Sometimes, when you talk to your spouse about your successes, interests, and ideas, instead of encouragement, you hear comments like “That’s ridiculous” or “This idea won’t work at all.”
This behavior may lead you to prefer silence and tell yourself it’s better not to talk about it to avoid embarrassment. When you feel humiliated, you will feel ashamed as well.
Values others’ opinions more than yours
Statements like “Are you sure you want to do this? Don’t you care what others will say?” can also induce shame in you. In such situations, your spouse places others’ opinions above yours and questions your tastes or beliefs. This undermines your self-confidence, leading you to feel ashamed of yourself.
His tone and body language make you feel inferior
The way something is said is often more important than the content. If your spouse speaks to you in anger and with a bad tone, you may feel that they don’t consider you a mature person and will feel embarrassed.Angerand poor tone when speaking can make you feel belittled and ashamed.
Reveals your private life and conflicts
Telling details of your private life to friends and family, especially in public, undoubtedly embarrasses the other party. You should tell your spouse that others have no right to know about issues, including arguments, between you.
