Things you should not expect from others
Having unreasonable expectations from others can disturb your peace and negatively affect your relationships. If you hold many expectations from everyone around you and they are not met, you may feel wronged and your behavior may change, leading others to drift away, ultimately making you feel lonely and isolated.
To have better relationships and a happier life, we must learn what expectations we should not have from others. In this section ofSelMagzWe have outlined expectations that we should not have from others.
Approval
Do not expect others to recognize your values, as all these values are hidden within you. Others are busy with their own lives, focusing on their own needs and desires. They are not prepared to emotionally or mentally validate your worth, and what they say or show reflects their own expectations, not yours.
Appreciation
You may receive appreciation or not, but you shouldn’t become dependent on others. If you do good things and expect others to acknowledge them, you are essentially setting the stage for disappointment.
Never do something solely to gain others’ appreciation; instead, do what you love to boost your own feelings. When you make progress in the right direction, appreciate yourself and overcome negativity. What matters is how you feel about yourself, leading to self-worth.
Motivation
No one can be your constant motivator; sometimes, only a friend can support your progress. However, they can’t force you to enjoy life. It’s up to you to set your own goals and determine the actions you need to take to achieve them. Don’t expect others to do things for you, as goals should drive you toward what you are passionate about.
Complete Understanding
No one has lived your experiences for you. The experiences that shape your current outlook on life are entirely different from anyone else’s. Therefore, don’t expect someone else to fully understand you. Perhaps it’s time to set aside others’ opinions and allow them to have their own perspectives based on their unique experiences.
Optimism
You alone can find the positives in your daily relationships or life. Unfortunately, ordinary people tend to look for shortcomings to fix, then feel.HappinessBut if you listen to the conversations around you, you will see a multitude of complaints and blame, directing you to focus on what could go right rather than what is wrong.
Part of happiness
Others can temporarily contribute to your happiness, but if you don’t want it, no one can force it upon you. Happiness comes from appreciating the small and big good things in life.
Judgment
If we grow up with negative feedback, we are always waiting for others to judge us, and when someone gives an opinion, we search for hidden meanings behind their words.
Forgiveness
If you expect others to forgive you, but you haven’t forgiven yourself yet, it’s of no use. First, forgive yourself, and then two wonderful things will happen: first, others will learn to forgive you, and second, you will learn to forgive others.
Priority
If you are not committed to and valuing yourself, you not only harm yourself but also send a message that you are not worth it, even to yourself. Treat yourself as if you matter so that others will follow suit. Ultimately, you should not expect others to prioritize you, as it’s your own responsibility to do so.
Problem Solving
It’s okay not to know how to resolve a problem. However, blaming others for not solving your related issues is not good. When you blame others, you deny yourself the opportunity to demonstrate your capabilities because you relinquish your power by expecting others to solve problems for you.
Showing Path and Method
Do not expect others to tell you what to do when you have no idea what you want. If you wish to lead a good life, you cannot rely on someone else to tell you what you want. Desire and passion must first arise from you; thus, you need to put aside passivity and support your own ideas to understand what and why you want something, as no one else can do this for you.
Agreement
If you are the type of person who expects agreement from others every time you wish to speak, be prepared to experience many disappointments. Most people have their own thoughts and opinions, and expecting them to consistently agree with yours is unrealistic. To convince others, you need to have knowledge and do your research, but don’t assume they will always agree or should agree.
Respect
Respect comes from within you. Therefore, if you want others to respect you, you must do what is necessary to respect yourself, that is, live in a way that reflects self-esteem. Do you speak to yourself as you would speak to a respected friend? Your behavior towards yourself sets a standard for how others will treat you.
