The Best Way to Handle Favoritism Among Daughters-in-Law in the Husband’s Family
After marriage and starting a life together, a bride should be able to interact correctly with her husband’s family, especially with her mother-in-law and sister-in-law. Unfortunately, some family members may behave incorrectly for various reasons, causing resentment and grudges among daughters-in-law. It’s better to set aside outdated beliefs and view your sister-in-law positively. If your husband’s family shows favoritism between you and your sister-in-law, follow the behavioral advice in this section fromSelMagz.
Don’t React Badly
If your husband’s family treats you differently from the other daughters-in-law, never respond negatively. Treat your sister-in-law kindly since she is not responsible for others’ actions. If the situation is unbearable, simply stay silent and smile.
Stay Calm
When your husband’s family shows favoritism, remain calm and keep a positive mindset. Don’t assume their praise of your sister-in-law is meant to harm you; instead, think they see her good qualities.
Focus on Your Own Behavior
Concentrate on your own actions. When they praise your sister-in-law, smile and say she’s wonderful. Set high goals and motivation for your life, avoiding details that lead to childish jealousy and competition with your sister-in-law.
Don’t Isolate Yourself
Some sisters-in-law distance themselves from family gatherings due to attention the family gives to others. Don’t let others think you’re withdrawing because of their actions.
Be Neat and Tidy
Always maintain a neat and well-groomed appearance at family gatherings. Your tidy appearance and clean clothes make you look respectable and polished in others’ eyes.
Don’t Blame Your Husband
Your husband is not responsible for his family’s behavior. If they show favoritism between you and your sister-in-law, do not blame him. Also, avoid discussing private matters with your husband in front of others.
Maintain Your Confidence
If your husband’s family treats you differently from your sister-in-law, don’t lose your confidence. Don’t get upset over their deliberate compliments; don’t let them see your weaknesses or low self-esteem.
Understand Your Husband’s Family
If your sister-in-law receives more attention from your husband’s family for various reasons, such as having more time or better income, understand that they might care for her a bit more.
Have Realistic Expectations
Some brides have unreasonable expectations of their husband’s family. Accept that your husband’s parents are not your parents, and you cannot expect them to behave like your own parents.
Accept Changes
If your husband’s family did not help much during your wedding due to financial issues but later supported another child when their situation improved, try to understand—there may be a time they assist you as well.
Live for Yourself
Don’t try to become someone your husband’s family wants you to be. Others should accept you as you are, just as your husband has. Treat them properly.
Never Waste Energy on These Issues
If favoritism from your husband’s family bothers you, ignore their actions and words. Never waste your energy focusing on these issues.
Don’t Discuss Favoritism with Your Family
Never share your husband’s family’s favoritism with your own family. Families often worsen situations with their involvement; even if your relationships improve, your family’s opinion about your husband’s family may remain negative.
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