Best Ways to Raise Your Child Without Yelling
Yelling has negative effects on our children’s development, but they might sometimes become stubborn and not listen. In such situations, there’s no guarantee we won’t lose our temper and yell at them. We are here to introduce better alternatives to yelling, so stay with us until the end of this Family Plus segment.DimnakJoin us.
Change Your Speaking Method
Repeat the same message multiple times in different ways. Change your phrasing, tone, body language, and speed of talking. If they don’t listen, you can trick them into paying more attention by speaking more gently or even changing your voice. Speaking in a different tone or even humorously might also be effective.
Don’t Complicate Your Words
Avoid making multiple requests at once. Ask for just 1 or 2 things at a time if possible.
Speak briefly and clearly with children. If they are asked for one thing at a time, they are more likely to listen. Setting a time for them to complete a task prepares them to listen more during that time.
Avoid Commanding
Instead of saying, “You must pick up your toys,” try saying, “Let’s pick up our toys.”
The next time you ask your children to do something, try replacing pronouns like “you” and “your” with “we” and “our.” You can even invite them to help by turning commands into questions.
Don’t Threaten
Sometimes when we are angry, we threaten our children. Instead of saying, “If you do this, I will do such and such,” try the other solutions in this article.
For instance, instead of threatening, calmly say, “I’m sorry you didn’t want to do this,” and then point out the consequences of ignoring.
Don’t Speak Ambiguously
Sometimes, you repeat a message multiple times, but no one listens. This is often because you don’t express your point clearly. For example, if you say, “It’s dinner time,” it should be clear whether your child needs to be at the table now or in 5 minutes. We must be clear about our message at all times.
Don’t Give Up
If you’ve asked your child to do something several times and they haven’t done it, don’t give up. If we want our children to learn to listen, we must be persistent.
Our children must learn that they don’t have to yell for us to take them seriously. So until they listen, change your way of speaking and repeat your message.
Don’t Be Unreasonable
Sometimes it’s necessary to loosen the reins a bit. We need to step back and ask ourselves whether what we’re asking our child to do is really worth putting that much pressure on them or if we’re just trying to assert our authority. We need to educate our children and establish discipline; however, we must also remember our child’s limits.
Act Like an Adult
Sometimes we lower ourselves to our child’s level, which gives them control over the situation. They are constantly testing to see how far they can extend their boundaries, and it’s our jobto make it clear where their limits are;when you feel that you are losing control as an adult, manage yourself and find another way.
Take a Break
If you lose control of the situation, exit the scenario. This will not only help you regain control over your emotions, but it will also teach your child to manage their anger.Anger ManagementFor instance, say something like, “Mom is angry right now and wants to take a break.” This way, the child understands that you are really exhausted and will be considerate of your feelings.
If Nothing Works, Keep Trying
We are all human and get angry. If you’ve tried all methods and nothing works, keep trying. You are definitely not a bad parent, and you love your children; otherwise, you wouldn’t be looking for solutions instead of shouting. You know your child best and are familiar with their quirks, so rest assured that there is a way for them to listen to you.
